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The author describes in detail what kind of actions from a parent can create an inappropriate dependency from a child, the resulting feelings that can stay with the child and the patterns of behavior through adulthood that follow. Subtle things that might seem innocent in a parent's mind can actually cross a line into inappropriate territory with a child and his/her development. The child may feel "icky," but also privileged to have such special attention from the parent.

The author offers advice for recovery and gives very clear statements about what must happen in order for the adult survivor of covert incest to make healthy changes and free him/herself from binding dependencies.

I purchased this book based on a recommendation on a message board. Wow! I am filled with relief to suddenly realize why I feel this way and why there are these inexplicable patterns in my life. The biggest relief of all is to know I'm not alone and that my odd feelings about my parents are not unjustified. I read it and said, "Finally! Now I know what is wrong!"

If you feel guilty about setting limits on your parents, this book is for you. If you are having difficulty connecting with your spouse and find yourself connecting more with your kids, please read this book.

I was blown away by the down-to-earth descriptions of "psychological marriage" with a parent, how it develops and how it affects future romantic relationships. I was comforted to be able to understand, yet challenged to take action. It explained all of my recent relationship dilemnas with my partner so much that I felt it was written about us. I was comforted to realize that there were real reasons for our problems and yet, I feel scared to open up this topic for discussion between us. My partner has limited insight. Thank you for helping me see that I am not imagining things or going crazy!

The single most important thing I have read in my adult life. It's scary but helpful to find oneself being totally described in the pages of a book...and I found this happening to me here.

This book was very informative! I learned a lot from reading this!

Enjoyed reading the options and information this book offered.

very inforative book, enjoyed learning options and information.

I would not have made it without this book. After 23 years of marriage, the revelation of infidelity almost killed me. No matter what I was feeling or thinking on any given day, I could find hope that I would make it. I did. And this book has been my "bible".

The aim of this book is not to solve your partner's betrayal but to validate and offer solace for those caught in it's web. It's a comfort book and I highly recommend it -especially during the early, crazy days when your life is spinning out of control and your mind is on overdrive. I carried it around with me and whenever I had a meltdown, I found reassurance that my new, unfamiliar (terrifying) emotions and thoughts were normal. I found the meditations calming and surely, this author has been there, done that. This book does not dispense advice but correctly places the focus on the betrayed's healing.

I am 25 years old. I've been married to my husband for two and a half years only, but we've been best friends for 11 years now. Just recently, I discovered that my husband is having an affair with a married woman- a friend from college. Upon learning, I have endured a succession of emotional blows from my husband. My husband was my guardian angel but now he's the catastrophe who ruined my life and stripped me off of my self respect and dignity. I was appalled by my husband's reaction when I caught his affair. He had so much pride that he did not apologize. He wanted to protect his concubine that he sent me away infront of her and made her stay instead. He had so much hatred for me that his words insulted me and wounded me more. He had a very deep emotional attachement to her that he had written her that she was more important, he love her more and he would prove that because he would leave me for her. I could not comprehend how he could have betrayed me and wounded me so badly in spite of the years we've been together. I have been his partner, best friend, sister and wife, so was he to me. Now it all shattered. When I read Alice May's Surviving Betrayal, I got all the assurance that I needed... that the affair was never my fault. I got affirmations regarding my emotions. I discovered that, though I have lost myself in placing my husband above everything else in my life, I could still pick up the shattered pieces in my life with courage and with faith in God. It is not an easy task. I think I will forever be trapped in the process of healing, but with the guidance of the Lord,the support of my loving mother and faith in my husband that he would change, I will survive. In God's time I will heal. Though my husband has not shown any signs of concrete repentance and remorse for what he did, I am not angry with him. With his betrayal I learned that there's nothing my husband could do that could make me love him less; not even if it is at the expense of loosing myself.

A great read, sharing the pain and anguish of families living with adults with this distressing disorder. What a shame it couldn't have been written many years ago. My hope is that it will a BEST SELLER in the interests of future generations of children on the Autism spectrum and their families. A MUST READ for all professionals working in this field.

Finally a book for us...i.e. the silent witnesses to what can be all too often the awful truth of being married to an aspie.
I recommend this book to anyone who has anything to do with an aspie....and most especially to the professionals out there who almost always refuse to listen to us....the real experts on AS.
After all we live with it 24/7

Rodman's book contains essays and poems by people living with an an adult who has Asperger's Syndrome. Some of the contributors are partners, some are parents and some are siblings. (The only group not represented is those who grew up with an Asperger's parent.)

This is the first book to illustrate the tremendous difficulties and deep emotional pain faced by the families of Asperger's sufferers. Help in many forms is now available for the sufferers themselves, but very little support or compassion is available for their spouses and families, who often struggle with soul-searing loneliness, frustration, loss of self-esteem, bewilderment and profound feelings of rejection.

The following quote comes from Rodman's own essay:

"Is anyone listening?... We, the families with our blistered hearts and souls and damaged psyche, are the end-product of undiagnosed and untreated Asperger's Syndrome. How many families are suffering out there? The feelings of rejection and loneliness plays a major role in the lives of the Aspergers' family. You and your feelings are not recognized by the afflicted person."

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is battling alone with an AS partner, parent or sibling. You will discover that you are not alone any longer.

I also recommend it strongly to all psychologists, psychiatrists, counsellors and other professionals who deal with AS. Many of them have absolutely no idea what the families are going through. It is time these voices were heard.

This book is the first in a series of good books-Part Romance, Part Detective Mystery.

Natalie Reed is a widow of a cop and works in a Newspaper in a small safe town. One day she comes home from work to find a dead body in her husbands study and goes to her neighbors house.

John McLean is the cop that gets called to investigate the dead body in Natalies house. He is also her husband Stuarts former partner and a single father.

John feels that Natalie is not safe in her house so she stays with him. There is only one problem, their attraction to one another!

With the help of his partner as well as his two younger brothers, Conner and Hugh (each of whom find romance in other books) John is able to crack the case of the body in Natalies house, but ends up learning more than he wanted to about his former and current partner.

Ever since John McLean's partner, Stuart Reed, died, the Fort Dare detective has done whatever he could to help Stuart's widow Natalie. Whether painting her house or telephoning occasionally to make sure she's okay, John has lived by the cop's code: if your partner dies, take care of his family. And always, Natalie has found some way to repay him because she doesn't want to feel obligated to anyone ever again. But suddenly, she finds a body in her study, and she hopes the man coming to the rescue will be John. She finds comfort in his arms, because he's become her friend. However, when he insists she stay at his house, she realizes she might want more than just friendship.

Single dad, John, supports his ex who requires skilled medical care, but even before she became ill, he knew their marriage was unraveling. Now,he'd like to keep Natalie around, but he feels he has no right to lust after his partner's widow, especially when he has domestic obligations himself.

When a second intruder breaks into Natalie's house, John realizes something sinister is going on, and it might involve his late partner. How can he get to the root of the problem without shattering lovely Natalie's belief in her husband? And how can he not lose his heart along the way?

This is the first in a trilogy by Ms. Johnson. Look for high emotional drama, believable characters, and a depth of human feeling in this well-crafted story. I chuckled at an obvious computer terminology glitch (those old beasties are 386s and 486s), but I applauded the otherwise skilled crafting of this engaging read. Highly recommended.

Years of discussion acclimate her to theoretical details of murder, but still leave Natalie Reed unprepared for gristly reality. When she discovers a body in her study, shock and terror take their toll. Natalie takes comfort that her husband's partner responds to the call and insists on finding her a safe place to stay. As details unfold, Natalie finds she must reevaluate the marriage to that bound her to Stuart Reed for three years. Indeed, Natalie faces, for the first time, the careless cruelty that belied the charm and sexiness her husband usually displayed.

Detective John McLean lives the cop's creed: If your partner dies, take care of his family. In spite of his own responsibilities to two young children and an ex-wife disabled by a crippling disease, John finds the time to paint her house, make repairs, and be available as a friend by phone and email. As the danger to Natalie becomes apparent, John finds himself protecting her with something more than just devotion and duty.

Friendship grows into something more in HIS PARTNER'S WIFE by Janice Kay Johnson. With a powerful hook to kick off the start of the book, and a surprising solution to missing money, this author keeps the pages turning. Emotionally gripping, each reevaluates the man who brought them together. The heroine was married to a good cop gone bad; the hero was his partner. Both find themselves questioning not just the past and the bad cop's influence on their lives, but also their own judgement. The act of reevaluation, however, brings redemption, allowing them to open to possibilities previously unconsidered. The first of a trilogy, HIS PARNTER'S WIFE PARTNER'S highly recommended.

Be warned, this book is one that should deffinatly not be judged by a short paragraph on the plot. Like many astounding books, when you try and tell somebody about the story line it comes off sounding tacky or dodgy. However, do not be fooled. This book is more that sex, and suicide. When reading it you find yourself relating almost to the characters which is often a lacking quality in books. Also the plot itself and the wild twists are very unpredictable which makes it an exciting and incredible read. I'm not going to tell you about the plot because that would ruin it for you, but my advice to you is do read it. It is worth it. To those of you who have read it and enjoyed it, may i suggest you also read "Plan B, by Jonathon Tropper" and "Secret History, by Donna Tartt"

And ignore the age, i am in fact 15 but am not registered as a member of Amazon and therefore couldn't write a review.

As the publisher of the audio book version (no longer available) of this book, I am very familiar with it and it's wonderfully, exciting and thrilling story. Once you pick it up you won't be able to put it down. It's got sex, plot, characterization, sex, and a fantastic ending...I always thought it would make a terrific movie.

This book has it all. Suspense, action, sex, and love. As a big fan of Clancy, I usually read political thrillers, but this book make me a huge fan of psychological thrillers also. The main character Phillie is a joy to read about. I recommend this book to all mature audiences.

Unlike "An Asperger Marriage", this book offers explanation and advice in hopes of developing understanding. My wife has found herself repeatedly experiencing "Aha's" as it becomes clear to her that I am not just an odd duck. If you only buy one book about relationships in context of Aspergers Syndrome, THIS IS THE ONE! I hope you find as much help and encouragement as my wife and I have.

My partner and I are both on the autistic spectrum, and I can't even begin to describe how valuable this book was for me (she hasn't read it yet, but plans to do so soon).

The first half is mainly about diagnosis. That didn't apply in our case, since we were already diagnosed, so I don't feel qualified to comment on that setion. The second half, however, is a gold mine of information on how to address one of the most important parts of any relationship: communication.

Those on the autistic spectrum communicate differently from the "neurologically typical". This book gets right into the "meat" of this matter by clearly and frankly explaining the different ways in which an "Aspie" (one with Asperger's Syndrome) interprets and uses language. It also explains strategies for both parties to use in bridging the communication gap -- rightly observing, by the way, that the Aspie partner needs to make an effort just as much as the non-Aspie partner does.

In addition, "Other Half" notes some other potential problems that may occur in your relationship (e.g., odd compulsive routines and how to deal with them) as well as certain strengths your Aspie partner will probably bring to your relationship that can be difficult to find in others.

If you or your partner have Asperger's Syndrome, this is not a book for you to miss.

This book is extremely helpful and supportive for those who have a Asperger spouse or significant other. It is very straight forward and tells it like it is. It was wonderful to know that I was not the only one who had to manage so many different aspects of our family's lives, but is realistic in explaining why it is necessary.

The book in not depressing, but realistic in the difficulities and benefits of this type of relationship. A good book to help you take charge and make sure that YOU also take care of yourself and know when to ask for some help.

I think this is a must read for anyone who lives with someone with Aspergers. It will really explain many of the things you may already do to support your spouse and why they work so well. This book would have saved me a lot of time and tears when I first got married. A quick read and excellent book.

ME ENCANTARIA QUE ME DIJERAN COMO PUEDO CONSEGUIR UNA COPIA DE ESTE EJEMPLAR TAN INTERESANTE. SOY ESTUDIANTE DE MAESTRIA Y SE QUE ME SERVIRA DE GRAN AYUDA EN UN CURSO QUE ESTOY TOMANDO ESTE SEMESTRE.

GRACIAS MIL, CARLOS A. SILVA-RUIZ

This is a very good book, it doesn't only focus on teachers but on parents and student as well. This book is easy to read, not heavy scientific language, and has very beautiful pictures. As a student and a mother I surely find everything I wish to read and know about "parents as partners in education". Thank you for a great book!

This text supplies new teachers with necessary information to understand the importance of parent involvement- "parents as partners"- in education.

This book is strongly recommended in the education for medical students in the University of Lund. That's why I read it. It's perfect as a startup book for your pre-clin medical studies. It's not deep enough in the physiology part (although anatomy and especially histology is very good) but the integrated approach is really terrific and it makes you understand in a whole new way. If you want to become a good doctor, you should absolutely buy this book, or borrow it a least in your library. The first integrated anatomy & physiology book I've read that's deep enough for medical students. Good work Seeley.

I had the pleasure of not only getting to use this text in my A&P class but I was taught by Dr. Seeley at Idaho State University. Great text with great explinations. I am still using it as a resource in Physician Assistant training.

I am sure that people who have read this book will agree that this product is the means of excellent basic Anatomy and Physiology. I have found figures and data tables very clear and easily understandable. Excellent Summaries at the end of each chapter beautifies this product. Clinical facts given from time to time are as interesting and knowledgeable as "Develop Your Reasoning Skills" Problems. This book deserve a chance from every Anatomy student. I conratulate the authors and highly recommend this book.

Wilma Fairbank catched my nurves of impression this time,when I found out there is a book described Liang and Lin's acheivement in English,the only one,an expensive one,but it worthes it.I decided to continually followed Lin's way,to do some research of classical Chinese architecture.I'd never said no to those difficulties since the obstancles always mislead my mind.There is one thing I hopefully didn't lost,a resoluted heart,nothing can move it.I don't care make more money or not,at least I mostly convinced myself to be a person have a pursuit of dreams.You could call me a freak,and I am still on the way to success.Lin and liang are the partners worked together to reach a goal.Unfortunatelly,I am an indepandent loner also emerged in the amazement of exploring a lost world.Thanks for Wilma's book,I could come trough the tunnel of history again.

Lin & Liang are forrunners of contemporary Chinese architecture. Like most idealistic intellectuals of the period, they went out to learn from the west and returned back home to contribute what they had learned.

This is an important trend in modern Chinese history. The long list of intellectuals includes Sun Yat Sen, Liang Qi Chao(the father of Liang)Chao Yuan Ren, Zhou En Lai, Tang Xiao Ping,.... It was a traumatic period for modern China. It was a time of possibilities, opportunities and frustrations.

One could not imagine the archievement and contributions of modern China to the world without these intellectuals.

The stories as told by Madame Wilma Fairbank is descriptive, touching and informative at the same time. Mrs. Fairbank(wife of John Fairbank) is a poet and historian at the same time. The book (text and images)is western journalism at its best.

The most difficult period for Lin & Liang is not Sino-Japanese War period. Although physically, Lin suffered from fleeing around and illness, but their spirit were high and friends were always around.

The most difficult period was after the liberation. Lin & Liang were destined to work with Chairman Mao, the founder of PRC. Based on their fruitful research and intellectual mind, they come up with the conclusion and dedicated their lives to the preservation of Chinese artefacts, and in most cases, Chinese architectural heritage.

As detailed descripted and well put by Madame Fairbank in the book, Lin & Liang travelled all over China and had produced hundreds and thousands of research papers with surveyed plans and photos. Wilma should have known, she joined and lived with them more than once. The Liangs' ideal and proposals to preserve holistically the ancient city of Beijing must had been in conflict with Chairman Mao's ideas. As the founder of PRC, Mao of course, would have his own plans. He believes, to me wrongly, that "Man would defeat Nature". He would like to see factories and other new buildings rising on the horizons of Beijing, Nanjing and everywhere in China.

This should be a matter of opinion. But as we all know, for a long period of time in contemporary China, a different opinion with Mao would be interpreted as a revisionist liner against the Communist Party! That's why Liang suffered so much and Lin died too young to suffer with him.

This is an important historic lesson that we, as a human being should all learn and study. Through the process of modernization, how should we deal with our heritage and nature? Liang proposed to preserve Old Beijing holistically. Beijing, as observed by Liang rightly, is the most complete form of an ancient city in the world! He is not an old man keeping only the 'Olive Tree'. Lin and Liang are genuine Chinese Architects. They proposed to preserve the old city walls and towers so that they could become civi open spaces and landscapes. People can enjoy history and live in history walking through.

Liang's second wife, Madame Lin Zhu said recently,"In the civic society, Liang is respected by many." Well put Madame Lin. (Lin Zhu's piece is included in the book also very moving.)

The problem is, it takes a few thousand years to build a civi society and a civiization, only takes a few second to destroy them. Should we not give deep thoughts to it.

Anyone who want to know more about Liang Si-chen and Lin Hui-yin and their firends should read this book.

To be honest, I feel what make this book so interesting is the life story of Lin and Liang and their friendship with friends, especially the Fairbanks. The Architecture contents are good too, but the life stories of Lin and Liang, two most important pioneers in Ancent Chinese Architecture studies, make the book very charming and worth of reading.

You will know more about the history of 20th century China, before, during and after WWII. You will see how communists grab power in this used-to-be-great country and gradually turn these respectible scholars' life upside down. How they were changed from eager supporter of Chairman Mao's so called 'New China' into losing the minimal hope to live on. This is a great book, written by John F Fairbank's wife, to memorize their true friendship with Liang and Lin.

This is not just another book about architecture. This is a book written with life.